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You're Not Overthinking Over Someone's Confusing Behavior.

Someone's approach and withdrawn behavior will be confusing. Their lack of reciprocity and intention will be hurtful enough. You're not overthinking, you're just trying to make sense of the things that they constantly sweep under the rug. 

You're not overthinking when someone's inconsistent actions confuse you. When you're unable to interpret their mixed messages. When you're struggling with making sense of their words that mismatch their behavior. 

A connection is never ruined with the existence of your boundaries. In the long run, they are ruined when you allow the person to step your boundaries. When your internal resentment and anger become the only means to maintain a connection with someone. When you let your internal guilt decide how strong your boundaries should how strong should your boundaries be. 

It is guilt-provoking when you attempt to set emotional boundaries. Because you haven't drawn out a conclusion to their inconsistent behavior and mixed signals. After their reaction to those, you may question your decision to set boundaries. You will be tempted to escape from that guilt. Leaving you unhappy and unsatisfied in your relationship. 

But you must tell yourself, that you nurture your relationships when you are aware of your intention to set boundaries. They grow when you hold yourself accountable. You seek connections in the presence of your behavioral choices. Not by cursing or punishing them. 

You nurture your relationships when you set emotional boundaries. What is my intent behind setting this boundary? What are my emotions that have followed along? You add a sense of psychological flexibility when you accept these emotions. You make space for others' resentment and revoke your boundary to exist. 


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