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What Does It Really Mean To Hold Regard For Someone?

  To really hold regard for someone, might mean to re-consider our expectations towards the "shoulds" in that relationship.  It is when you need the time to sit alone and process the hard times all by yourselves, but you also ensure the person’s happiness over you. It is when you know you don’t have much to offer, and yet hold the consideration that maybe one day you will. With the right time and the next moment. When discussing together those hard, difficult, and uncomfortable emotions seems much easier than suppressing them and fearing them. When you know that you will be offered the safe space that you didn’t even know you needed, for your emotions to flow naturally. Without your conscious mind having to control it. It is that feeling where you sacrifice your needs to not seek their approval, but rather to show yours to them. It is when you lack the courage to apologize or take responsibility for your actions, but couldn’t bear the idea of seeing them hurt. There are not m

How To Have Hard Conversations

  To be able to present our truth in an assertive, kind can be much more empowering than telling ourselves “But I don’t want to hurt them.” Conversations can grow hard when we desire to convey a message or a piece of truth to someone. We play a little scenario in our heads where the moment might sooner go down the hill, heating the moment and ruining our relationship with the person. Hard conversations and Lashing out. Anger and fear are those hard emotions that emerge with the thought of conveying our truth to someone. It is not an unusual thing if you are often suppressing in, avoiding the point, and even lashing out around people. We are functional human beings wired for our survival, within social situations. The strategies that we use and the emotions that draw us are helpful to our protection. To be able to effectively regulate those emotions will require us the time and mental space to obtain a sense of “safety.” To be able to divide the accumulated emotions and information

"To Heal Each Other's Wounds"- The Real Meaning of Intimacy that'll Surprise You.

I didn't come to realize my own beauty, until it was reflected back to me. Like a mirror. Coming from another loving, caring human being.  True intimacy is human constant. I believe. To heal each other's wounds; and repair the broken skin.  Intimacy is when they'll answer your phone- "Hey you." When they stop and wait for you as tie you shoe lace. Intimacy is when they identify your voice is thick with worry. The comfort that you sense as you share your honest thoughts with them. Without the fear of being judged. Even if your thoughts makes no sense.  To sing badly with you in a car. To recognize your handwriting instantly. When they're trying to make plans and say "oh no, I know you're busy that day." When they're there for you watching you cry. Being able to portray your deepest darkest secrets, fears, disappointments and frustrations. And yet feeling seen and understood, in a way you just couldn't describe.  The intimacy of