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The "Shoulds" Of Being A "Bigger Person" That You Must Let Go.

  What if being a bigger person meant that you acknowledge how you really feel? Being hurt by a partner’s words. Misled by someone else’s wrong doings. Felt angry, but didn’t want to appear crazy. Whether in a relationship with your partner or interacting with a younger sibling, how often in one day a voice inside you tells you- “but you should be the bigger person” no matter what.   1. I Should Be ‘Excusing’ their offense towards Me. By excusing their offense, you are minimizing your honest feelings about their actions. You give yourself an opportunity to deny your own feelings and needs in that particular situation. Neither could you then sit and actually process the true emotions that will help you process and move on. Something that doesn’t allow you to take a pause and ask yourself, "okay this is how I feel. Let's see what can I do about it now." What if being a bigger person meant that you acknowledge how you really feel? By doing so, you a

3 "Non-Angry" Statements When Someone Dismisses Your Feelings.

The rolling eyes, sighing on my requests. Playing on their phones. Avoiding. Storming off the room.  I have had enough of people to dismiss, neglect, and minimize how I feel. When all I needed was someone to tell me that I'm not going crazy! That my thoughts matter for real.  "You shouldn't be angry" "It wasn't that bad" "You always make a big deal out of it" How painful is that, to hear if from someone you need the most. I have made a complete fool of myself until I figured simple three ways to respond.  1. "I'm not asking you to evaluate whether my feelings are valid." You may always need someone in relationship to understand you. However it's too easy for a partner to get off the topic and judge how acceptable your emotions are. But in those moments, you only need them to offer you some kind of validation. When that doesn't happen, it may throw you off guard. Especially if you're a highly sensitive perso

3 Self Care Rituals to Try Out This Week.

It will frighten you. Letting go of the need to seek someone, in your own journey. To eliminate your thirst for validation. To abandon the fear of tomorrow. Be on your own side. A wise move.  I have pretended long enough. That i couldn't carry it any longer. For I have gathered up the courage to be myself.    Choosing to believe in my own thoughts. To let my feelings direct the course of my action is the wisest I can become.  It will frighten you. Letting go of the need to seek someone, in your own journey. To eliminate your thirst for validation. To abandon the fear of tomorrow. Standing up for your own. And yet, seeing yourself as an independent adult who can stand up for your choices, will let you to accept yourself as you are.  The things that torment us thrive on our hushed fears and insecurities and they are made powerless by a resilient voice; An inner voice that says...“No More!” ~ Jason Versey"  Recognize the negative patterns and limiting beliefs that hav

"To Heal Each Other's Wounds"- The Real Meaning of Intimacy that'll Surprise You.

I didn't come to realize my own beauty, until it was reflected back to me. Like a mirror. Coming from another loving, caring human being.  True intimacy is human constant. I believe. To heal each other's wounds; and repair the broken skin.  Intimacy is when they'll answer your phone- "Hey you." When they stop and wait for you as tie you shoe lace. Intimacy is when they identify your voice is thick with worry. The comfort that you sense as you share your honest thoughts with them. Without the fear of being judged. Even if your thoughts makes no sense.  To sing badly with you in a car. To recognize your handwriting instantly. When they're trying to make plans and say "oh no, I know you're busy that day." When they're there for you watching you cry. Being able to portray your deepest darkest secrets, fears, disappointments and frustrations. And yet feeling seen and understood, in a way you just couldn't describe.  The intimacy of