Skip to main content

Posts

Showing posts with the label Wellness

Three Acceptance Tools to Cope with Anxiety.

Whether it’s a situation or a choice, we often get fixated on never-ending list of questions as an attempt to cope with the anxiety. It may look like we are in a deep thought process, with inner statements that look like  “ If only I think about it long enough, I’m sure I will find a way.”   “If I don’t think long enough, I may miss the answers that may occur suddenly”   “That’s not what I expected to happen.” “I can’t deal with the fact that I didn’t get that job.” “What have I done for my partner to leave me?” “How will I manage to live without this now?” “I can’t tolerate this at all.”   The purpose of Anxiety is control. Things that lead us fearful or uncertain about people, places or events in our life; is more likely you will want to control it. Because you are not ready to face those uncertain feelings. When this happens, you will find yourself – running away, fighting against, chasing after things that don’t appear to be modified or changed. Acceptance as a copin

How To Stop Being Triggered By Everyday Triggers.

  The idea is simple. You get triggered because you haven’t given yourself the pause that you need. You haven’t allowed yourself to process the immediate emotion you have. By not doing so,   your brain goes into flight or fight response without having a chance to brainstorm concrete steps you can take to cope with that emotion. So how do you exactly do it? 1. What are some of the moments on a typical day that overwhelm you. Get yourself a pen and a paper.   List down moments that trigger you to blame or shame others. List down moments where you feel angry and frustrated. List down moments that remind you that the situation is out of your control. List down people that annoy you. List down the incidents that keep repeating and overwhelm you.   2. Pause, Pause & Pause. What does it mean? It means is to give yourself a moment to be gentle with your feelings, which you won’t usually do otherwise. The pause allows you notice that the situation is ge

“I’m Being Too Sensitive”- 2 Tools to Eliminate Self-Gaslighting.

Even if I was wrong in that situation, is it fair to say that my feelings don’t deserve to be validated and attended to?   You almost self-gaslight yourself each time you minimize and suppress your thoughts and emotions regarding a particular situation. Statements that you keep repeating in your head may look like: “It’s not that bad” “Maybe am being too sensitive” “I don’t know what just happened, but let’s forget it.” “I’m too dramatic, gosh why can’t I behave different.” “What’s wrong with me” Anxiety, shame, doubt, depression and guilt are the expected emotions that you may experience. Two tools to break self-gaslighting and help you validate your very own emotions are: 1. Coping Statements that target self-validation. Brainstorm and keep a few statements handy for the next time you find yourself self-gaslighting your feelings. Practice these statements a few times so that when you really need them, they’ll be available to you without an extra mental