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Are We Jumping To Conclusions Too Soon During An Argument?

  Wife initiates: “ I’d prefer a cat over a dog . ” Husband responds: “ But why do you hate dogs? ” “ I know what you mean! ” — Wife feels personally attacked and assumes that her husband believes his conclusion to be true; the argument escalates.  Image by Abdul on Unsplash In the above scenario, both of their conclusion behind the argument has been inaccurate. Suzanne Jolley in a Psychiatry Research investigated that such false conclusions are often decisions made based on limited data available.  Similarly, an instance presented by Patrick Freyne pointed out that today there are more number of people arguing online, which is not only unproductive, but also grown bitter. In response, a cyberpsychology expert explains that the rise of argumentativeness could be associated with the lack of visual or auditory cues which are otherwise available in face to face discussion. Lack of information such as being unable to see another person’s frown or angry voice, prevents the arguer in maki

How To Have Hard Conversations

  To be able to present our truth in an assertive, kind can be much more empowering than telling ourselves “But I don’t want to hurt them.” Conversations can grow hard when we desire to convey a message or a piece of truth to someone. We play a little scenario in our heads where the moment might sooner go down the hill, heating the moment and ruining our relationship with the person. Hard conversations and Lashing out. Anger and fear are those hard emotions that emerge with the thought of conveying our truth to someone. It is not an unusual thing if you are often suppressing in, avoiding the point, and even lashing out around people. We are functional human beings wired for our survival, within social situations. The strategies that we use and the emotions that draw us are helpful to our protection. To be able to effectively regulate those emotions will require us the time and mental space to obtain a sense of “safety.” To be able to divide the accumulated emotions and information